Take … out on/ – to direct anger at an innocent third-party
- It’s not my fault that your girlfriend cheated on you, so don’t take it out on me!
Note: This phrasal verb is exclusively separated. Sometimes, however, the object can come between “out” and “on,” especially when the object is a phrase, like in the following example:
- They took out their frustration about the failed test on me and made me stay late.
- They took out on me their frustration about the failed test and made me stay late.
Flip out on/ – To suddenly direct strong anger/frustration at someone
- If I forget my anniversary my girlfriend is going to flip out on I forgot last year and we almost broke up!
Note: We can substitute the preposition “about” in place of “on” in order to indicate the cause, rather than the recipient, of the anger or frustration. For example:
- The board of directors is flipping outabout the tax audit. Apparently there have been some dishonest accounting practices.
Hold … against/ – To maintain anger/distrust towards someone because of their past actions
- My brother was really mean to me when we were kids, but I don’t hold it against We were just kids, and now he’s one of my best friends.
Note: This is yet another phrasal verb that we use in exclusively separated form (meaning, it needs to have an object). The following example is therefore incorrect:
- It’s not healthy to hold against people for things they did a long time ago.
Set … off/ – To cause someone to release anger they had kept contained
- If you start talking about his family you’re going to set him off. The last time he discussed his relatives he was upset for days.
Note: This phrasal verb can be used in a different context where it means “to trigger an alarm.” For example:
- The smoke from the toaster set off the smoke alarm and the building was evacuated.
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